Hazy Love: Taylor's "Lavender Haze" Meaning, Explained Line by Line

Taylor Swift’s first track from Midnights symbolically opens a new era for the songwriter.

Lavender Haze describes a private love bubble, where everything is new, exciting and romantic. But the outside world wants in, and she’s having none of it.

What does the central metaphor of “lavender haze” mean, and what is she trying to tell us in the lyrics?

Here’s my full English teacher analysis of the Lavender Haze lyrics meaning, line by line.

Lavender Haze by Taylor Swift

Title: Lavender Haze
Written by: Taylor Swift, Jack Antonoff, Zoë Kravitz, Sounwave, Jahaan Sweet & Sam Dew
Track: 1, Midnights
Pen: Fountain (with maybe a bit of Quill)
Lyrics from Genius

Lavender Haze Narrative Summary

Setting: An all-encompassing new lover, “you”)
Characters: Narrator (Taylor), subject (lover,
Mood: Blissful, laissez-faire
Conflict: the world wants to intrude on her private love bubble.
Inciting Incident: “I been under scrutiny”
Quest: Stay in the lavender haze love bubble as long as possible.
Symbols & Metaphors: “lavender haze,” “midnight,” “Staring at the ceiling,” “my melancholia,” “scrutiny,” “new to me,” “damned if I do,” “1950s shit,” “your bride,” “one-night or a wife,” “my history,” “you weren’t even listening,” “talk your talk and go viral,” “love spiral,” “get it off your chest / get it off my desk.”
Lesson: Sometimes, you’ll do anything – even tune out the entire world – to stay in the lavender haze.

What is Lavender Haze About?

Taylor said she heard the phrase “lavender haze” to describe the glow of early love. The lyrics describe shutting out the world to stay in this love bubble, similar to Call it What You Want.

She said:

“Lavender Haze is track one on Midnights, and I happened upon the phrase “lavender haze” when I was watching Mad Men, and I looked it up, because I thought it sounded cool, and it turns out that it’s a common phrase used in the 50s where they would just describe being in love.

Like, if you were in a lavender haze, that meant that you were in that all-encompassing love glow, and I thought that was really beautiful. And I guess theoretically when you’re in the lavender haze, you’ll do anything to stay there, and not let people bring you down off of that cloud.”
–Taylor Swift via Instagram

Who is Lavender Haze About?

Taylor has never revealed if Lavender Haze was inspired by any real people or romances in her life.

It’s important to remember that Midnights is a concept album in which Taylor narrates “13 sleepless nights” throughout her life.

If Lavender Haze alludes to a particular romance, it’s likely about when she first got together with Joe Alwyn in 2016, but we may never know for sure.

Lavender Haze Lyrics Meaning: Line by Line

A blurred blue and purple background with portions of lyrics from Taylor Swift's song "Lavender Haze," annotated to find hidden meanings and analyse her use of literary devices.
The lyrics read: "Meet me at midnight

Staring at the ceiling with you

Oh, you don't ever say too much

And you don't really read into

My melancholia

I been under scrutiny (Yeah, oh, yeah)

You handle it beautifully (Yeah, oh, yeah)

All this shit is new to me (Yeah, oh, yeah)"

The intro begins: “meet me at midnight.” And with that one simple word, Taylor opens a new album and era. We’re officially out of the folklore and evermore woods and back in the real world.

“Staring at the ceiling with you,” she says, either describing a bored evening doing nothing, or doing something between the sheets.

“Oh, you don’t ever say too much,” she says. This alludes to either a comfortable silence, or his silence during sex.

“And you don’t really read into / My melancholia” means that he doesn’t question or try to pick apart her sadness.

To be melancholy is to have a deep sadness for no particular reason. He doesn’t try to diagnose her; he just accepts that it’s a part of who she is. But this also describes a kind of disconnect between them: does he not see it, or does he not care?

“I been under scrutiny,” she says, but “you handle it beautifully.” This likely alludes to one of two major dramas: either Snake Gate, or the master’s heist. He handles this media chaos gracefully, and it steadies her.

“All this shit is new to me,” she says. This either means that the toxic gossip (#TaylorSwiftisOverParty) is new to her, or that it’s novel to have a person stand by her and not be affected by the media storm.

Either way, it’s a good thing: he is strong when she falls apart.

Chorus: “The 1950s Shit They Want From Me”

The chorus introduces the central metaphor. “I feel,” she says, “The lavender haze creeping up on me.”

“Lavender haze” was a 1950s colloquialism that meant you’re in the early love bubble, where everything seems romantic, perfect, and you’re falling deeper and deeper.

She feels it “creeping up on me,” which means she wasn’t seeking it out: it just happened. It snuck up on her and surprised her.

“Surreal,” she says, “I’m damned if I do give a damn what people say.” This alludes to the common phrase “damned if I do, damned it I don’t,” which means that consequences will come, no matter which action you take.

But “damned” also ties in with the Christian overtones of heaven and hell that are prominent on this album. Taylor ponders her beliefs in much of Midnights, and wonders what her loss of faith means for her soul.

In this context, she’s “damned” (sent to hell) if she does care about the media chatter and gossip, but she’s also damned if she doesn’t care about it. It’s a fine line to walk: keeping an eye on your reputation while also trying to keep your love private.

“No deal,” she says, “The 1950s shit they want from me.” People expect her to be the perfect 1950s housewife, or to take on the traditional gender roles of the era.

“No deal” means she doesn’t want that: she wants to live on her own terms, and not according to what old-fashioned society expects. This might make her a mad woman, but so be it.

This is ironic, since she’s using a 1950s phrase to reflect where she’s at in her relationship, but she rejects the connotations that come along with it.

“I just wanna stay in that lavender haze,” she says. She doesn’t want or need to know where this relationship is going right now. She just wants to enjoy that magical early time, and get lost in the love bubble.

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Verse 2: “A One-Night or a Wife”

The second verse references the “1950s shit” directly. “All they keep asking me,” she says, “is if I’m gonna be your bride.”

People don’t ask whether they’ll get married or when the wedding is; they ask if she’ll be his bride. She doesn’t want to be known as anyone’s wife; she just wants to be known as herself.

“The only kinda girl they see,” she says, alluding to society or the media, “is a one-night or a wife.”

It’s important to note that both those kinds of girls – a “one-night or a wife” – are labeled in their relation to a man. His one-night stand, his wife. She wants no part of either.

“I find it dizzying,” she says, “they’re bringing up my history.” This likely references her past reputation as a ‘serial monogamist’ or heartbreaker; the blonde country artist who writes scathing songs about her ex-boyfriends.

“But you weren’t even listening,” she says. He ignores when her past resurfaces: he judges her not by what others say, but by what she herself says.

He tunes out the world, and focuses only on her.

Bridge: “Get it Off My Desk”

The bridge addresses the social media chatter surrounding Taylor at all times.

“Talk your talk and go viral,” she says, which basically means: ‘say whatever you want, I don’t care.’

“I just need this love spiral,” she says. As long as she has her lover inside the lavender haze, she’s immune from everything going on around her.

“Get it off your chest,” she says to the world. It means ‘go ahead – say what you’re gonna say.’ Just “get it off my desk,” she says. It’s not her problem, so take it off her pile of worries. She’s all out of f***s to give.

This is her surrender to the world around her: she can’t control the media, the influencers, the chatter of her fans and foes. So if she can’t control it, why should she care?

She’s happy as can be, inside a private love bubble where no one can touch her. And she’d rather focus her time and energy on that, rather than giving a shit what every Sarah and Hannah on the internet have to say.

Outro: “I Just Wanna Stay in that Lavender Haze”

The outro once again tells everyone that she doesn’t care: “get it off your chest / get it off my desk.” People will say what they’re going to say, and it’s not her problem anymore.

“That lavender haze,” however, is part of what they’re gossiping about. They’re trying to pry into her private life, and get a glimpse inside the love bubble.

They speculate she’ll marry him, they’ll have kids, etc. She doesn’t care, she just wants to stay “in that lavender haze” forever.

As long as she stays there, everything will be alright. But like all good things, the lavender haze will come to an end eventually. And the real world will be there, waiting at her doorstep.

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Lavender Haze Lyrics Meaning: Final Thoughts

Taylor is in blissful denial in this song, but the love bubble will soon burst later on in the album. The same naivete she describes as “you weren’t even listening” will transform into a slow, painful death of denial.

In the album’s final song You’re Losing Me, what at first made him so appealing will turn into his biggest flaw: “My face was gray, but you wouldn’t admit that we were sick”. He wasn’t listening to her symptoms, and it will be the death of them.

These two tracks symbolically bookend Midnights, and both thoughts keep her up at night. Can you be both wilfully ignorant of your partner’s woes, and still be a good partner?

Right now, a dreamy lavender haze surrounds her, but the air will soon be “thick with loss and indecision.” Is there a happy medium, or is her life too big and too chaotic for anyone to stay?

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